Your motive should always be for God to move. First, in the hearts of those involved and secondly, in your relationships as a whole.
Be aware that this often means He is going to reveal necessary change in you. When you take responsibility and own what is yours, it provides a powerful opportunity for God to work.
Stop the Blame Game
It’s all too common to justify your actions because of what someone else said or did.
- How is it right or okay that you say ugly things because someone else said something ugly to you?
- How is the riots and destruction okay that we’ve seen at Donald Trump rallies because certain people don’t like him?
Your words or actions are never justified by what someone else says or does.
- It’s not about whether you don’t like what they said.
- It’s not about whether you like the other person or not.
- What you say and do stands on it’s own.
Take responsibility for your own words or actions as they stand on their own.
No Hiding Under the Rug
When you say or do something you know is wrong, don’t try to sweep it under the rug as though it never happened. When you own up to it and apologize for it, you will glorify God and your integrity will stand high. You will also set an example that can have far reaching implications.
Having a discussion with someone, about something you said or did that was wrong, is never as hard as we build it up in our minds. Just do it if you need to. The results of no guilt to carry around and personal growth will far outweigh your fears.
Be aware that the other person may not accept your apology. You can’t worry about that. They own that choice just the same as any other. Stay on your side of the street and own what is yours. If you were wrong; take care of it.
100% Ownership Belongs to Each Person
In every relationship, each person is only responsible for themselves – 100%.
It is not your job to come across the table and try to own the other persons words or actions. Stop making excuses for them – stop taking over what is rightfully theirs. If they choose to justify their behaviors without taking ownership, that doesn’t change a thing. What is theirs still doesn’t belong to you.
I’ve heard many, many women indicate that they were the cause of why someone hurt them with words or actions. THAT JUST MAKES ME ANGRY! And, it’s a LIE! I don’t care what someone does or doesn’t do, they own their choices and you own yours. PERIOD!
If your husband chooses to look at pornography; it’s not because your nightgowns aren’t sexy enough or because you don’t make love every night.
If you choose to relieve your stress with too much alcohol; it’s not because your husband doesn’t help you enough or because your boss gave the big project to your co-worker.
Check your motives, check your words, check your behaviors and OWN WHAT’S YOURS!
Learn to Love
I said earlier that you don’t have to like someone. This is true, but you do have to love others. This is a command.
Learning to love others with the heart of Christ means that you want what He wants for them. It doesn’t mean you have to be best friends with everyone and it certainly doesn’t mean you take ownership for their choices.
- Loving others is first and foremost praying for others. Praying for their salvation and submission to Jesus.
- Loving others is also about allowing them the opportunity to take ownership for their behaviors as you own yours.
- Loving others is not about trying to mold people into what you want them to say or do.
- Loving others is not about blind trust. A person’s heart shows through in what they do; not what they say.
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- You can rid yourself of the needless pain, and perhaps shame, you carry around.
- You can own what is yours in repairing broken relationships.
- You can leave the struggles of your secrets behind you to live authentically.
- Life is too short and you have too much to offer the world.
- Don’t stay in the place of letting your past own even a small piece of you any longer.
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